The Power of Pausing and Listening in Relationships

Not long ago, my son shared a problem with me. Almost immediately, I jumped into problem-solving mode. He cut me off and said, frustrated:

“Papa, just listen. I think I know what to do.”

That was a big realization. Even though I pride myself on being a good listener, I realized how often I may have done this with colleagues, friends, or even my spouse.

Sometimes, all someone needs is silence and presence — not advice.

Here are 3 small practices that help:

1. Pause, listen, and hold space → validates feelings and makes people feel heard

2. Ask curious questions, don't advice → empowers others to find their own answers

3. Apply it to yourself → when self-criticism arises, pause and show self-compassion → shifts self-doubt into awareness and confidence

Benefits I’ve seen:

• Stronger relationships

• More meaningful conversations

• Greater self-confidence

I’d love to hear — how do you practice pausing and listening in your daily life?